Minnesota Marriage Retreat Intensive
For When You Need a Jumpstart to Improve Your Marriage
Minnesota marriage retreats are 4 hours and designed to clarify core issues and includes intensive therapy.
About Your Marriage Retreat Leader
Ben Hoogland, LMFT. With over 15 years’ experience as an individual, couples and family therapist, I will guide you through the hard parts of your relationship and teach you skills to express your emotions, feel more connected, and tap into the hope and joy you once felt. I’m passionate about helping create your ideal relationship & live the life of your dreams. Despite what you have heard, it’s possible to grow and thrive. Find strength & resilience you didn’t know was possible, not with someone else, not in the future, right now with your current partner.
My training in 5 unique techniques allows me to find the best solution for any couple. Read about my approach to marriage counseling to see why I am a 5 star therapist serving metropolitan Minnesota, and the whole state online.
Are you lying awake at night worried about the state of your marriage (or relationship)? Do you feel like things are so dire that you need to “jump start” your marriage? Marriage is difficult and nothing prepares us for it perfectly.
In fact, many seek marriage help too late. According to relationship and marriage expert Dr. John Gottman, couples wait an average of six years of being unhappy before getting help.  After years of resentment it gets very difficult to turn things around, to the point where multiple sessions or an intensive retreat becomes necessary to jump start the relationship.
Or Try My Minnesota Marriage Retreat For An In-Depth Check-In.
Or perhaps you are starting your marriage, and want to make sure your relationship is in good shape. If this is what you are seeking, then help can be spread out across multiple sessions with my premarital counseling, or you can get to the root of the problem and see immediate hope with my 4 hour intensive retreat.
Many newlyweds have questions about the future of their relationship which I dive into on my premarital counseling page. Some of these issues are shown below.
Why My Intensive Marriage Retreat Works
In my typical therapy, the first 1-3 sessions are spent identifying the problems at hand and probing into deeper causes. I usually spend the first getting to know the dynamics of a couple and then proceed to doing some one on one sessions with each partner.
During my first sessions, I often learn more about individual family and relationship histories, value conflicts, expetctions over roles and sex, andfind any dangeous cycles that many couples fall into. You can visualize my typical process below.
By session 3 or 4 of a typical therapy program we usually start doing some exercises to tackle the root cause of the issue and regroup to see how that helps us to rethink our relationship. That’s why typical therapy can be frustrating for many couples. Many learn that there is a problem after our first meeting, but don’t have any tools to work on it when they get home. An intensive avoids this issue.
During our retreat we can discuss a variety of topics. Some couples want to spend it investigating questions of divorce and seeing what the best collective outcome would be. Otherwise, we can have a focus on marital enhancement which may include emotional intimacy and questions over sexual fulfillment.
A Typical Success Story for My Marriage Retreat:
I had a couple come to me saying that they “felt like roommates” and any passion in their relationship had died years ago. While there was no physical cheating, they both had concerns over the other’s emotional connection with mutual friends, to the point where they felt that they were emotionally neglected compared to the other’s “confidant.” I label this type of arrangement as “emotional infidelity”, but as with any infidelity, it is a symptom of a larger problem, often miscommunication or lack of intimacy.
It got to the point where they each were plagued by constant anxiety about the others whereabouts, they were on edge that the emotional affairs would turn physical sooner or later. They viewed each other as enemies to watch and control rather than as a union to find stability and safety. Most attempts to build trust on their own failed because they simply couldn’t trust the other. Trust was impossible without being able to communicate the deeper issues in the relationship to the other.
As is the issue with many relationships, I first helped this couple to be able to understand the others worldview and feelings. For the first time they got to the “why” and left therapy with hope of keeping the relationship together and had less anxiety when apart. By being a part of this retreat they finally built space where love could flourish. They also finally had some tools to find success on their own.
Common Topics Covered
- Intimacy (emotional and physical)
- Discussion over roles and finances
- Building a well of positive emotion to draw from and strengthen your relationship/Develop a deeper connection
- Find new ways of communicating and conflicting without causing harm, drawing from Ben’s innovative SAIL technique.
Cost Of The Minnesota Marriage Retreat
While other marriage retreats can cost $2000+ (!) The cost at TCMFT is capped at $695. That way you can still afford to treat each other in other ways after the retreat is completed.
Benefits Of The Minnesota Marriage Retreat:
- 1-on-1 with Ben Hoogland, No Groups
- Weekend Availability
- Immediate Results
- Dig Deep into YOUR Issues
- Perfect for Busy Schedules
- Get Breakthroughs the Same Day