Twin Cities Marriage and Family Therapy offers expertise that leaves 75% of couples satisfied. Therapy is available both online and in person at our Eden Prairie office.
Contact us for an initial appointment now, or click the link below to access our exclusive resources, including Ben Hoogland’s innovative SAIL technique for better couples communication.
My Office Serves Metro Minnesota and Now Offering Online Marriage Counseling Sessions Over Telehealth for Across Minnesota.
Are you worried your relationship is over?
Does it feel like you’ll never feel connected or passionate in your relationship?
Are you struggling to find a way to heal the past and connect again? Have you tried to solve the problems in your life on your own and realized you need help from someone else? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you have made the right choice by being here.
And I know this is hard.
You’ve likely been debating seeking help for months, if not years. But I’m so glad you found me and have taken the courageous step of being here.
I’m confident that together we can work to help equip you with the necessary tools to help you face and overcome these challenges. Whether you’re struggling with infidelity, disconnection or relationship problems, it is important that you know you don’t have to be alone on this journey.
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Is Marriage Counseling For You?
For many couples that are unsure about whether therapy or divorce is the best action, I offer discernment counseling. This is the best strategy for “mixed agenda couples” where one partner is leaning towards divorce and the other thinks more work can be done. If you are in this category read my discernment counseling page to see if this is what can help your situation.
Finding Passion Again
Couples Counseling at Twin Cities Marriage and Family Therapy
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT) Benjamin Hoogland is a father and husband who is dedicated to helping other couples discover and sustain balance in their relationship. Fostering healthy communication in a neutral setting, Twin Cities Marriage and Family Therapy specializes in couples’ counseling along with family therapy.
What should you do if you think you should see a marriage counselor? And, what are some signs that a couple’s counselor or family therapy might be right for you?
Marriage and family counseling benefits those who are facing marital difficulties, as well as those considering infidelity or who may already be engaged in an affair. It can also benefit whole families, including those experiencing adolescent behavioral issues or other forms of conflict.
Couples’ counseling statistics are positive. In fact, around 75-percent of couples who sought guidance from a counselor saw benefits.
One major indication that counseling is needed is a lack of communication within the relationship. This can present itself in different forms, including a complete lack of conversation or a trepidation to talk for fear it will lead to a fight or altercation.
A Case Study for Example…
(Helping couples that are feeling distant and have a lack of communication)
Ann and Lance were married after a year of dating, then had 3 kids within 5 years. Ann said she has not felt any closeness or connection to Lance since their first child was born. She said he has spent more time at work and has become more distant after several promotions. She said that even though she also works full-time, she carries most of the responsibility for the kids and home. Lance said he tries to help, but feels she is always pointing out how he is doing things wrong. He said that ever since they started having kids, there’s no time for their relationship, which we revealed to mean that he felt that she had no time for him.
We slowly revealed this was not a communication problem but an emotions issue. Neither had learned how to communicate on an emotional level with the other. Instead, their difficult emotions fueled constant arguments that were never resolved, and every argument felt bigger than the last. They watched TV in separate rooms at night, Lance regularly fell asleep on the couch, saying he didn’t want to risk waking her up.
Through our sessions I helped them actually interpret their difficult emotions like sadness, loneliness and the fear that they weren’t good enough for the other. Finally, they HEARD each other for the first time in their relationship. They saw the truth – there are two people with their own realities in a relationship – each with memories shaded by their emotions, past and state of mind. Once Ann and Lance stopped trying to prove their reality was more true than the other’s, they were able to UNDERSTAND each other’s reality without feeling obligated to AGREE with each other’s reality. They rekindled their connection, found ways to create intimacy in the little time they had in their daily lives and went out of their way to share their emotions, rather than try and hide them. They were finally communicating on an emotional level, which only built a more intimate relationship.
Couples counseling is the right decision for many. Call Twin Cities Marriage and Family Therapy to schedule an appointment.
Meet Ben Hoogland
With over 15 years experience as an individual, couples and family therapist, I will guide you through the hard parts of your relationship and teach you skills to express your emotions, feel more connected, and tap into the hope and joy you once felt. I’m passionate about helping create your ideal relationship & live the life of your dreams. Despite what you have heard, it’s possible to grow and thrive. Find strength & resilience you didn’t know was possible, not with someone else, not in the future, right now with your current partner.
My training in 5 unique techniques allows me to find the best solution for any couple. Read about my approach to marriage counseling to see why I am a 5 star therapist serving metropolitan Minnesota, and the whole state online.