My partner won’t attend therapy with me, should I still come by myself?

Yes. You can make an impact on your relationship by making changes on your own that will impact your relationship now. This happens all of the time and I have helped individuals change who they are in their relationship and have seen amazing results when their partner responds to their changes.

My partner cheated on me, but I said I would never stay with someone if they cheated on me. Why do I find myself conflicted and feeling like an idiot for wanting to stay?

I hear this one all of the time. The simple answer? We all say things we will do hypothetically, but when emotions and your life together as a couple/family are taken into account, it’s not such an easy decision. The reality is, to start over seems monumental, and there’s no guarantee you’ll find love like you have had with your partner. You can rebuild your relationship, or you can create a new one – with your current partner.

Why don’t you take insurance?

Insurance pays for what is considered “medical necessity.” Additionally, insurance will only pay therapy services if a mental health diagnosis exists. That means one of you would need to be diagnosed with a mental health disorder in order for insurance to pay for sessions. I am happy to complete a Mental Health Assessment to determine if a mental health disorder exists, but I cannot guarantee a diagnosis will be given after the Assessment. From there, I will provide you with what is called a “Superbill” you can submit to your insurance carrier for reimbursement through your out-of-network (OON) benefits. Your OON benefits may be the same, or close to, your in-network (INN) benefits. Please contact your insurance provider for clarification about your benefits.

I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?

Not at all. People who ask for help know when they need it and have the courage to reach out. Everyone needs help now and then. In our work together, I’ll help you explore and identify your strengths and how to implement them to reduce the influence of the problems you are facing.

What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?

The difference is between someone who can do something, and someone who has the training and experience to do that same thing professionally. A mental health professional can help you approach your situation in a new way– teach you new skills, gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself. Furthermore, counseling is completely confidential. You won’t have to worry about others “knowing my business.” Lastly, if your situation provokes a great deal of negative emotion, and you’ve been confiding in a friend or family member, there is the risk that once you are feeling better you could start avoiding that person so you aren’t reminded of this difficult time in your life.

Why shouldn’t I just take medication?

Medication can be effective but it alone cannot solve all issues. Sometimes medication is needed in conjunction with counseling. Our work together is designed to explore and unpack the problems you are experiencing and expand on your strengths that can help you accomplish your personal goals.

How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?

Because each person has different issues and goals for counseling, it will be different depending on the individual. I tailor my therapeutic approach to your specific needs.

How long will it take?

Unfortunately, this is not possible to say in a general FAQs page. Everyone’s circumstances are unique to them and the length of time counseling can take to allow you to accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek counseling in the first place. If you are uncertain as to what the future of the relationship is you may consider Twin Cities Marriage and Family Therapy‘s discernment counseling to see if counseling or divorce is preferred, after 5-6 sessions you will know where the relationship is heading.

I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?

I am so glad you are dedicated to getting the most out of your sessions. Your active participation and dedication will be crucial to your success.