Somewhere between the second kid and the school-pickup spreadsheet, the two of you became an excellent parenting team and stopped being a couple. You tag-team bedtime, divide the errands, trade the calendar back and forth, and barely look up at each other. You’re partners in logistics. You miss being partners in life.
Most St. Louis Park couples we see aren’t in crisis. They’re devoted parents who poured everything into the kids and let the marriage coast. We help you move from “I versus you” back to “us,” and we treat the relationship itself, not one of you as the problem.
Your kids need you to be a couple, not just co-parents
The way you and your partner treat each other is the relationship template your kids absorb. A strong marriage isn’t time taken away from them; it’s one of the most important things you give them. Reconnecting as a couple is parenting, too.
Too tired for sex isn’t the whole story
When you’re running on empty, desire often won’t show up on its own, and that’s not a sign something’s broken. For a lot of people, wanting sex follows closeness rather than leading it: you don’t feel like it until you’ve reconnected, and then you do. That’s responsive desire, and it’s completely normal.
Serving St. Louis Park, online or nearby in Eden Prairie
We see St. Louis Park couples online anywhere in Minnesota and in person at our Eden Prairie office, same therapists, same methods, the Gottman Method and EFT. Private-pay on purpose: no diagnosis, no labeling one of you the problem. Learn more about our marriage and couples counseling approach.
Ready when you are. Schedule a free 10-minute call or reach out through our contact page to get started.